Inevitably, aging is accompanied by the pain of loss. Whether the experience is loss of independence, mobility or health, a career held for most of a lifetime, or a beloved spouse, relative, friend or pet, feelings of sadness can last for a lengthy period of time. Grieving over loss is normal and even lengthy. But when does grief become depression, and is it a cause for concern?
Professional opinion indicates there may not be a set time for grieving, but there are additional signs to help distinguish the shared differences between grief and clinical depression. One key example is that those who are grieving still have moments of pleasure. Watch for happy reactions to visits from friends or relatives, enjoyment of a favorite meal, appreciation of a hug, smiles or laughter during a favorite program or joke—these responses are typical of the up and down emotions of grief.
When a person is grieving a loss, the emotions may be experienced as intense waves of sadness but there may also be periods of interspersed fond memories. Grief is focused on the loss and yearning for the deceased loved one or friend, but depression is characterized by feeling hopeless about life in general.
When feelings of even brief joys or happiness are absent and are replaced by constant feelings of emptiness and despair, these signs point to clinical depression. Fortunately, at Residences Senior Living, there is support for individuals and families to guide them through emotional issues. We understand the need for residents, families, and our greater community to understand and access help. Lindsey Sherron has a master’s degree in Clinical Social Work, extensive experience working with older adults, and serves as our Director of Social Services. Lindsey is available at both Deer Creek in Schererville and Coffee Creek in Chesterton. She is available for consultation and to lead conversations offering support and coping with the grieving process. She is also able to offer referrals and recommendations should further support become a next step in coping with depression.
Understanding that there is a mind/body connection is also important, especially for the well-being of older adults. Medical conditions such as Parkinson’s, stroke, heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and chronic pain can cause depression later in life. Cognitive decline, loneliness, a sense of purpose, fears, and more characterize depression, often and surprisingly, without sadness. Instead, seniors may complain of physical complaints, low energy or increased physical pain.
Depression can lead to health problems or make an already diagnosed condition worsen; heart disease, chronic pain, compromised nutrition, less desire to move or participate in daily activities, and loss of sleep are some of the more recognizable signs of stress from depression.
Sometimes, grief, although usually lessened by time, may lead to depression and symptoms overlap. When sadness is significant or daily functioning interruptions become increasingly noticeable, it is time to discuss these changes with a physician and/or mental health professional.
We can all benefit from knowing the differences between grief and depression. Someone we know or love might need to know where to turn for support!